I’m not setting out the plans for the lives of my children and laying out how their journey will go or where it may take them, though sometimes I forget that. I’m simply trying to put them on that path leading to God, training them for the battles to come. If we aren’t training our children to be warriors then what are we training them to be?
The objective isn’t to be perfect parents, the goal is to teach them how to perfectly rely upon God. Their best examples is too let them see my struggles, especially since they tend to be aware (to some degree, at least) that we are struggling. So do they see me “flip out”? Or do they see me go before the Lord in prayer and with a searching heart?
Perhaps I’m too transparent with my children. I don’t know. Maybe when they’re grown, they’ll lament and say “I wish my dad had been a stronger man.” Very possible. But I do know that, even though I’ve allowed them to see me weak and be vulnerable in difficult moments, I’ve also shown them where I turn and what weapons I use to do battle with: I kick open the armory door, grab my shield, pick up my sword and prepare my battlefield with a covering of prayer. Then I go get dirty on that spiritual battle-field. Because even though I let them see my vulnerability and weakness, I also let them experience our victorious moments, as well. Ultimately, I’m banking on the fact that someday, this will be the greater example for them when they go out to face their spiritual enemy. It’s never easy. But my hope is… that maybe I’ve laid enough of a solid foundation for them to return to one day.
Peace, Sean Gutteridge
6 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.